Our 19 year old son is drifting down. Visits from police, tender support from his mother while he heals from bike accident, and my own attempts to convey ideas like play comes after work, the value of a pro and con list and pointing out the black phlem he coughs up is from smoke in your lungs.....have not helped.
Curfew, 2 chores and limited phone data have not assisted his listening. Last night when we barred him from the house at 2 am, we had a scuffle, police came 2x and he finished the interaction with a rock through the front window.
My question: "Is our expecting change toward positive behavior misguided because he is wired to resist ? "