I m in love with my girlfriend but we are having a serious issue. She looks, talks like, was from the same town as, same body shape as my abusive exwife. Whenever we are together romantically making love I find that I am horribly reminded of all the abuse and anger and I cannot keep an erection. We both want to stay together but Im having a hard time falling in love with her because they look so much alike. What should we do?