We have been together 8 years and this has always been a problem. I was hurt in a past relationship and I know it changed the way I think. Maybe I've always been this way. He doesn't have a problem being affectionate towards me and I can reciprocate. But I don't initiate. I don't initiate sex either, which is also a problem. I don't know why it is so hard for me. I feel like I am a female who thinks like a man in some instances. Can anyone help?