Hello, and thank you for taking a moment to read my question.
This is something I have wonderd about myself for a long time but I can never seem to find the answer when I research it. Maybe I am just being an idiot a missing it or maybe I am just a freak who can say? The thing is that I am ussually a very shy person, who feels uncomfortable in social situations. However if I am in a social situation in which no one knows me I become this very out going and seemingly friendly person, while I am doing this I can easily manipulate people around me and get them to do what I want. However the instant someone says that they know me (whether it is from school, work, or just acquaintences) I immediatly turn back into this timid person who has difficulty holding a conversation.
The reason why I am asking this right now is that last night I went to a bar with a few of my friends and we were just talking, and I decided to go say hello to this pretty girl I had seen sitting alone at the bar. I went over and said hello to her and felt very nervous, however when she asked me my name I accidently said "My names Jace" rather than my actual name. Once I did that all my nerves went away, and I was able to easily convince her not only to give me her number but to agree to go on a date with me in a matter of minutes. So I am just curious is this type of thing common, and if so is there a way I can stay way even around people I know?
Thank you very much for reading, and for any potential answers you could give me.
Edit: Sorry I was reading some of the other questions asked on this site and saw that a lot of the answers were simply "I don't know, you don't give us enough information", so I figured I should add in some details. I am a 28 year old male that came from a good middle class family, I had difficulty making friends while growing up but became better at it as I started college. I have not been diagnosed with any mental problems and have never been to see a therapist, although I do think I suffer from a mild case of both paranoia and OCD. Besides those two things and the situation I described above I am a relativly normal, if bit to shy, guy. I have been depressed in the past but I have overcome it. Hopefully by adding in these details I can potentially help others on this website to answer my question. Once again thank you for reading.
This is something I have wonderd about myself for a long time but I can never seem to find the answer when I research it. Maybe I am just being an idiot a missing it or maybe I am just a freak who can say? The thing is that I am ussually a very shy person, who feels uncomfortable in social situations. However if I am in a social situation in which no one knows me I become this very out going and seemingly friendly person, while I am doing this I can easily manipulate people around me and get them to do what I want. However the instant someone says that they know me (whether it is from school, work, or just acquaintences) I immediatly turn back into this timid person who has difficulty holding a conversation.
The reason why I am asking this right now is that last night I went to a bar with a few of my friends and we were just talking, and I decided to go say hello to this pretty girl I had seen sitting alone at the bar. I went over and said hello to her and felt very nervous, however when she asked me my name I accidently said "My names Jace" rather than my actual name. Once I did that all my nerves went away, and I was able to easily convince her not only to give me her number but to agree to go on a date with me in a matter of minutes. So I am just curious is this type of thing common, and if so is there a way I can stay way even around people I know?
Thank you very much for reading, and for any potential answers you could give me.
Edit: Sorry I was reading some of the other questions asked on this site and saw that a lot of the answers were simply "I don't know, you don't give us enough information", so I figured I should add in some details. I am a 28 year old male that came from a good middle class family, I had difficulty making friends while growing up but became better at it as I started college. I have not been diagnosed with any mental problems and have never been to see a therapist, although I do think I suffer from a mild case of both paranoia and OCD. Besides those two things and the situation I described above I am a relativly normal, if bit to shy, guy. I have been depressed in the past but I have overcome it. Hopefully by adding in these details I can potentially help others on this website to answer my question. Once again thank you for reading.