My son (who is now 21 yrs. old) only sees the bad in me. I've given him everything I possible could. I worked 2 and 3 jobs to keep him in a nice house in a nice neighborhood, bought him the best of clothes (better than I ever had!), even cashed in my retirement to purchase a nice SUV so he wouldn't be embarrassed when I drove him to school in high school since the old pick-up truck I had for winter driving (4 wheel drive) was used primarily for us riding the quads I purchased for us to have fun. I know I spoiled him. He was my only child. I wanted to give him everything I never had. My dad told me not to spoil him and I couldn't understand why he would say that. NOW I KNOW !! He is the most disrespectful, unappreciative young man I know! His father (who was an attorney) and would not work also had a gambling problem and when he didn't have money to blow in the casino would charge his gambling on high-interest credit cards! Consequently, I couldn't take "all that" and we divorced when our son was around 10 years old. I made sure he was in a special program for divorced kids at school called "Banana Splits", I took him to a counselor to find out why he was so hateful (since I figured it had something to do with the divorce - what else? He had everything!) I thought he would grow out of it. Now he twists the truth to make me out to be a horrible person and says I did nothing for him and I always tell him he can't succeed, etc. I never told him he can't succeed! I remind him every once in awhile to watch who he hangs around with and not to do anything that some of his friends do. I can tell by looking at their eyes what they do! He thinks I owe him respect. He doesn't think I show him any respect and so that's why he has no respect for me. I did my best for him. We always went to church when he was young. He was an alter boy, attended religious instruction classes once a week, etc.