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Hello, and thank you for taking a moment to read my question.

              This is something I have wonderd about myself for a long time but I can never seem to find the answer when I research it. Maybe I am just being an idiot a missing it or maybe I am just a freak who can say? The thing is that I am ussually a very shy person, who feels uncomfortable in social situations. However if I am in a social situation in which no one knows me I become this very out going and seemingly friendly person, while I am doing this I can easily manipulate people around me and get them to do what I want. However the instant someone says that they know me (whether it is from school, work, or just acquaintences) I immediatly turn back into this timid person who has difficulty holding a conversation.

             The reason why I am asking this right now is that last night I went to a bar with a few of my friends and we were just talking, and I decided to go say hello to this pretty girl I had seen sitting alone at the bar. I went over and said hello to her and felt very nervous, however when she asked me my name I accidently said "My names Jace" rather than my actual name. Once I did that all my nerves went away, and I was able to easily convince her not only to give me her number but to agree to go on a date with me in a matter of minutes. So I am just curious is this type of thing common, and if so is there a way I can stay way even around people I know?

               Thank you very much for reading, and for any potential answers you could give me.

Edit: Sorry I was reading some of the other questions asked on this site and saw that a lot of the answers were simply "I don't know, you don't give us enough information", so I figured I should add in some details. I am a 28 year old male that came from a good middle class family, I had difficulty making friends while growing up but became better at it as I started college. I have not been diagnosed with any mental problems and have never been to see a therapist, although I do think I suffer from a mild case of both paranoia and OCD. Besides those two things and the situation I described above I am a relativly normal, if bit to shy, guy. I have been depressed in the past but I have overcome it. Hopefully by adding in these details I can potentially help others on this website to answer my question. Once again thank you for reading.




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Thank you very much for your quick response, and sorry that I was not clear on some of the things. I suppose you are correct in saying that "manipulate" was not the proper word to use, I suppose convincing would be better. As for the other two points the paranoia and OCD is self-diagnosed, just based on what I have read about those two conditions. As for my fear of people being related to my parents, it is completely possible. In fact it probably more than likely, however neither of them were psychologically abusive. In fact I still have a great relationship with them both. Once again thank you very much for your comment you have given me a great deal to think about.
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