Many search for their "idea" of love which is almost like a fairytale. Many look for validation of what is missing in their lives and many are looking for an emotional connection and an escape from her boring world into the land of fun and fantasy. Sadly the cold hard truth collides with their ideal ideas and the men they find in all those places are looking for something completely opposite of them. They don't call us oppposite sexes for nothing. Example: Why would any woman look for love in a bar? I promise you 99.9 percent of the men she will find there are there only looking for sex. It is in all our natures to search and look but our motives for looking vary as much as our personalities.